The questions game

This is a game I like to play with my friends (or anyone that I like) to get to know them a little better. It’s also an easy way to have better conversations.

Thanks to that game I found out things about my friends that surprised me, made me laugh and that also helped me understand them better.

It’s kind of like a bonding exercise – but in a fun way.

Not only do you get to know your friends better, but it’s also a great way to pass time on a long car ride, when waiting in line or when you don’t really know what to talk about.

So here we go.

The purpose of this game

In daily life it is easy to get stuck in the same questions. How are you doing? How’s work / school? What have you been up to?

So this game is just a fun way to change it up a little and grow closer with your friends.

How to play

The game is really simple. It’s basically just asking questions (as the name indicates). However, the point is to ask questions they don’t get asked every day and that will probably spark further conversation.

You don’t necessarily have to call it a game, you could just ask the questions. But by calling it a game you make it clear that they can ask you questions too and you’re not just nagging them.

I have a couple of go-to favorite questions, but if I can’t come up with new ones, I’ll just use the ’36 questions to fall in love’ (they were super popular on YouTube a while back and they work just as well with friendships). I don’t ask all of them, I just pick and choose some that I like and that fit the type of friendship in question. You could also google ‘questions to ask on a first date’ or simply ‘questions to ask’ and pick the ones that spark your interest.

Some examples

To give you an idea about the type of questions I like to ask, here are some of my go-tos:

• What is the best thing that happened to you in the last month?
• What’s your favorite thing you own?
• Who’s the person you look up to the most?
• If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

You see? It can be anything, something random, something deep, but almost any of those questions will give you an answer that’ll teach you more about your friend.

Some of those lists will have questions on them that dig really deep. Most of the time (especially if I’m not super close to the person yet or I know they don’t like to talk about ‘deep’ stuff) I will choose not to ask those. But some people love to talk about that, you’ll probably know what’s best with your friends.

For me personally I find some of the questions that will be suggested as ‘first date’ questions are a little too invasive for when you just get to know someone – but that’s just me. Others might love it.

Which questions do you like to ask?